Every year, 12 million girls lose their right to education because of child marriage and teen pregnancy, trapping them in cycles of poverty and inequality. I was one of them.
At 13, I was pulled from school to become a wife and mother.
My story paints a vivid picture of the struggles many young girls endure when being forced to marry. At a very young age, I lost my mother in the Democratic Republic of Congo due to conflict and was left in the care of my uncle.
Tragedy struck when my uncle forced me to marry a 45-year-old man—a complete stranger to me—in exchange for a dowry that would alleviate my uncle’s financial woes.
This marriage shattered my hopes for a better future and robbed me of my childhood and my dreams. At 15, I gave birth, but with many complications due to my young age.
After being in the Kyaka II Refugee Settlement, I was fortunate to be resettled to Sweden through the UNHCR resettlement process. There I returned to school and enrolled in a vocational program to pursue my diploma in cooking.
Alongside my studies, I am actively advocating for the rights of girls living as refugees to access both formal and informal education.
My lived experience serves as a stark reminder of the urgent need to address the harmful practice of child marriage and to protect the rights of young girls in marginalized communities.
Girls experiencing displacement are particularly vulnerable, facing heightened risks of forced marriage and early motherhood due to economic hardship, limited opportunities and cultural norms that prioritize marriage over their rights and futures.
Education is central to addressing both of these issues, particularly because a lack of schooling is both a cause and consequence of these harmful practices: girls pulled from school are more likely to become child brides; and those forced into marriage face barriers to continuing their education.
Forced child marriage is a grave violation that deprives young girls of education, autonomy and childhood while perpetuating harmful gender norms and often leading to teenage pregnancy.
Young mothers also face serious health risks including higher maternal mortality and complications while their children are more likely to experience developmental issues—all continuing cycles of poverty.
In displacement settings like refugee camps, the lack of education, healthcare and protection services exacerbates these risks.
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Keep inspiring Girls Faridah.
This is so awakening, educating a young girl is educating a world heroine!
My sister is a mother of 2 kids at just 16.
Keep it up
Keep it up Farida, your work is recognized, and your story inspired So many girls in the Kalobeyei settlement. Kenya @KUA Initiative our Girls are so proud of your dedication to supporting teenage mothers thriving in their local communities.
What an inspiring story abs journey. You play a beacon role in empowering young women including refugees. Keep it up. Your legacy speaks louder than yourself.
You are an inspiration to many! Thank you for sharing your story Faridah and for your bravery. It is critical to ensure women and youth led groups are involved in the decision making processes.
It not at some of the countries in Africa. It is in the whole of Africa where girls are are treated to obey cultural rules and black people norms. Even in South Africa I am one of the girls who suffered the consequences and strict rules on girls especially those who's mothers past away and no maternal or siblings of the late mother. The Goverment must make sure that every female and elderly people are monitored by social workers who can witness every suffering and lack of simple needs, needed as a whole, for the nation at large. People are not free at their home, environment, rural area, township, town, province and country etc. Therefore country improvement is needed at large. Thanks 🙏 and Amen. ✍️
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